If you’ve ever watched the medal ceremony at the Olympics and thought the bronze medalist looks oddly jubilant while the silver medalist wears a faint shadow of disappointment, you’re not imagining things. In a recent Instagram reel that quickly gained attention, American author and behavioral science expert Daniel H. Pink posed a compelling question: Why does third place feel better than second place? The answer, it turns out, lies deep in the human psyche—and in the often uncomfortable but vital emotion of regret.
Pink, the celebrated author of seven New York Times bestsellers including Drive and To Sell is Human, is no stranger to unraveling the hidden forces that shape human behavior. In his latest work, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward, he dives into the science of how regrets—often seen as negative—can actually help us learn, improve, and grow. But his Olympic example takes this idea and spins it into a surprisingly relatable truth: your place on the podium doesn’t just depend on performance—it depends on perception.
The Paradox of the Podium
In his reel, Pink unpacks an intriguing psychological phenomenon backed by Olympic photo evidence. “If you show people photographs of Olympic medalists on the podium—without showing them which medal they received—gold medalists, unsurprisingly, look thrilled. But what’s fascinating is that bronze medalists often look happier than silver medalists,” Pink explains.
Why this twist in emotional logic? According to Pink, it’s all about counterfactual thinking—how we imagine what could have been. Bronze medalists tend to engage in downward counterfactuals, mentally contrasting their outcome with a worse alternative. Their inner dialogue often goes, “At least I didn’t come fourth and leave with nothing.” That sense of relief, of narrowly escaping a worse fate, breeds joy.
Silver medalists, on the other hand, engage in upward counterfactuals. Their thoughts spiral around what could have been better: “If only I had pushed a bit harder, I’d have won gold.” It's not just finishing second—it’s losing first. And that subtle shift in framing can make all the difference.
Is Regret The Engine of Improvement?
This is where Pink’s broader thesis in The Power of Regret kicks in. “Regret,” he says, “is the quintessential upward counterfactual. It starts with those two haunting words: If only…” And yet, rather than dismissing regret as a negative emotion to be avoided, Pink makes a compelling case for its utility. “ If only makes us feel worse—but also do better.”
He argues that regret is baked into our evolutionary programming. It’s part of our survival mechanism. Feeling regret forces us to examine our choices, reconsider our strategies, and make different decisions in the future. Painful as it might be, regret is often the gateway to personal growth.
From Speechwriting to Social Science
Daniel H. Pink is no armchair psychologist. A former speechwriter for Vice President Al Gore and editor-in-chief of the Yale Law & Policy Review, Pink traded his Washington credentials for a deeper dive into behavioral science. Since then, he’s become one of the most influential thinkers in the realms of motivation, timing, and human potential.
From A Whole New Mind to When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing, Pink’s books have reshaped how we approach work, decision-making, and leadership. With The Power of Regret, he’s now making us rethink our emotional relationship with failure—and showing us how even our second-place blues might hold the secret to our next big win.
Internet Weighs In: "You Don’t Win a Silver, You Lose a Gold"
Pink’s Olympic insight has sparked a flurry of reactions online. One user commented, “The closer you are, the more it hurts.” Another cleverly put it, “You don’t win a silver, you lose a gold.” Others chimed in with sports-savvy takes: “Third place is coming off a win. Second is coming off a loss.” The emotional logic of the podium, it seems, resonates with people far beyond sports.
However, not everyone is entirely convinced. One thoughtful comment questioned whether the logic holds over time: “The only way to prove what’s actually better is to look at the history of medalists. Did silver winners go on to win gold later? Or drop to bronze? At the elite level, the rules can change.”
It’s a fair point—perspective can shift with distance. But in the immediate aftermath, when emotions are raw and the weight of “what might have been” is heaviest, Pink’s insight rings true.
So, Why Does Third Place Feel Better?
Because bronze feels like dodging a bullet, while silver feels like a missed opportunity.
Because downward comparisons comfort us, while upward comparisons haunt us.
Because, as Daniel H. Pink so elegantly shows, our brains are wired to regret—but also to reflect, reframe, and rise again.
So the next time you find yourself finishing “second” in some area of life, don’t beat yourself up. Instead, think like a bronze medalist. And then, use the sting of regret not as a burden—but as a stepping stone.
Pink, the celebrated author of seven New York Times bestsellers including Drive and To Sell is Human, is no stranger to unraveling the hidden forces that shape human behavior. In his latest work, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward, he dives into the science of how regrets—often seen as negative—can actually help us learn, improve, and grow. But his Olympic example takes this idea and spins it into a surprisingly relatable truth: your place on the podium doesn’t just depend on performance—it depends on perception.
The Paradox of the Podium
In his reel, Pink unpacks an intriguing psychological phenomenon backed by Olympic photo evidence. “If you show people photographs of Olympic medalists on the podium—without showing them which medal they received—gold medalists, unsurprisingly, look thrilled. But what’s fascinating is that bronze medalists often look happier than silver medalists,” Pink explains.
Why this twist in emotional logic? According to Pink, it’s all about counterfactual thinking—how we imagine what could have been. Bronze medalists tend to engage in downward counterfactuals, mentally contrasting their outcome with a worse alternative. Their inner dialogue often goes, “At least I didn’t come fourth and leave with nothing.” That sense of relief, of narrowly escaping a worse fate, breeds joy.
Silver medalists, on the other hand, engage in upward counterfactuals. Their thoughts spiral around what could have been better: “If only I had pushed a bit harder, I’d have won gold.” It's not just finishing second—it’s losing first. And that subtle shift in framing can make all the difference.
Is Regret The Engine of Improvement?
This is where Pink’s broader thesis in The Power of Regret kicks in. “Regret,” he says, “is the quintessential upward counterfactual. It starts with those two haunting words: If only…” And yet, rather than dismissing regret as a negative emotion to be avoided, Pink makes a compelling case for its utility. “ If only makes us feel worse—but also do better.”
He argues that regret is baked into our evolutionary programming. It’s part of our survival mechanism. Feeling regret forces us to examine our choices, reconsider our strategies, and make different decisions in the future. Painful as it might be, regret is often the gateway to personal growth.
After 20 years of writing books, I'm compiling the passages Kindle readers have highlighted most.
— Daniel Pink (@DanielPink) April 20, 2023
Here's one from The Power of Regret: pic.twitter.com/EXcqH8xOaa
From Speechwriting to Social Science
Daniel H. Pink is no armchair psychologist. A former speechwriter for Vice President Al Gore and editor-in-chief of the Yale Law & Policy Review, Pink traded his Washington credentials for a deeper dive into behavioral science. Since then, he’s become one of the most influential thinkers in the realms of motivation, timing, and human potential.
From A Whole New Mind to When: The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing, Pink’s books have reshaped how we approach work, decision-making, and leadership. With The Power of Regret, he’s now making us rethink our emotional relationship with failure—and showing us how even our second-place blues might hold the secret to our next big win.
Internet Weighs In: "You Don’t Win a Silver, You Lose a Gold"
Pink’s Olympic insight has sparked a flurry of reactions online. One user commented, “The closer you are, the more it hurts.” Another cleverly put it, “You don’t win a silver, you lose a gold.” Others chimed in with sports-savvy takes: “Third place is coming off a win. Second is coming off a loss.” The emotional logic of the podium, it seems, resonates with people far beyond sports.
However, not everyone is entirely convinced. One thoughtful comment questioned whether the logic holds over time: “The only way to prove what’s actually better is to look at the history of medalists. Did silver winners go on to win gold later? Or drop to bronze? At the elite level, the rules can change.”
It’s a fair point—perspective can shift with distance. But in the immediate aftermath, when emotions are raw and the weight of “what might have been” is heaviest, Pink’s insight rings true.
So, Why Does Third Place Feel Better?
Because bronze feels like dodging a bullet, while silver feels like a missed opportunity.
Because downward comparisons comfort us, while upward comparisons haunt us.
Because, as Daniel H. Pink so elegantly shows, our brains are wired to regret—but also to reflect, reframe, and rise again.
So the next time you find yourself finishing “second” in some area of life, don’t beat yourself up. Instead, think like a bronze medalist. And then, use the sting of regret not as a burden—but as a stepping stone.
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